Change starts when you are ready. Full stop.
I have been collecting self improvement for more than 15 years, listening to the most famous and effective coaches in the world, including (but not only) Brian Tracy, Anthony Robbins, Richard Bandler… read tones of information about NLP, relationships, sexuality… but still have weaknesses.
Knowledge, as sleeping, can not be accumulate. You will be rested tomorrow if you sleep seven or eight hours, but you will not rest for two days if you sleep fourteen hours in a row. It just doesn’t work like that.
Same thing happens with the things you learn. You can memorise it, store it in your brain, but…you will not make it yours unless there is a need to cover. When the student is ready, the master appears, and not the other way round.
We just accumulate the things we learn, we know what makes a good lover, a prepared student, how important a positive attitude is, how to treat others but it doesn’t mean we will use that knowledge.
When we are in the place when we say: “I must do it, no matter what. I am not stop until I do it!” then, nothing can stop us. Someone said that if you put a frog in scalding water it will jump, but if you put it in warm water and boil it slowly, the frog will stay and die. Most of us die like this frog. Just a few find the courage or are hurt enough to jump.
I have been crying all my life about how procrastination is destroying my life, but the funny thing is that all this years nothing changed… because I didn’t want it… enough.
A decision is de difference between success and failure. Not a… ‘wouldn’t it be nice to do that? To loose some weight, to learn a skill?, to go out, to make a life, to change partner, life, country…’ unless you get to the place of “no matter what!!!!” nothing will change. Save your money in books, videos, audiotapes. You are not prepared.
When do you know if you are? Well, about that, as about love, when the time comes, you will know.
But there is no reason to wait. Look at how your life goes down for not acting. Shout loud. ENOUGH!!! And then don’t cry, don’t complain. BE happy because now you are ready to take a decision. Hold your self to that state. Use it to create momentum. Plan, and act. But not tomorrow, as then it will be late. Not in five minutes. Act now. Close this blog.
DO IT NOW.